On July 29th 2004, Tom Manuel, proprieter of  Tom's Cafe , passed away, before his passing he turned over stewardship of the Cafe to Noodles who has kept it running until a couple days ago.

Tom's Cafe will now be a memorial to his activisim in promoting fashion freedom for males. As a replacement, Noodles created the Skirt Cafe , and has handed it over to Bob who will continue with the hosting of it as a place for males to get information and express their ventures into alternative clothing.

 Steven

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Bah, you gotta love these people that spam everyone, im just going to turn off the comments for a little while and see about another update to keep it out, in the meanwhile, bugger off ya spam mongers!

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I just read a fairly disturbing article Did Pedophilia Hysteria Cause Child's Death?

I can understand when females say they are not treated equally, my own mother is a victim of the discrimination she faces for being a female.

 But I dare any female to say males have it better then females after reading this article.

I have more thoughts on this issue, but will have to post them later. 

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My name is Steven

By Steven Arness

What's in a name? A great deal in some cases with many people out there, not only is it the word you answer to, you embrace it as your own and define yourself around it. My name? My name is Steven, such a plain and ordinary name, nothing really special about it unless you knew me. Then you would realize I relish my name, it defines who and what I am. Which is kind of odd is it not? Its just a name after all, not a color or shape, names like red and round define things, surely a name like Steven could not be used to define such things.

But my name does exactly that, it is the same name my Dad feared that I would drag through the mud if the public ever found as to who I was. It is the same name that has invigorated me to continue being me, after all, it is my name is it not? And I have a great name, while common, it instills fear into people who know me and makes my enemies tremble. My name is no coward, it faces it's enemies and strikes them down, and those who fight it wish they had never picked a fight with it.

My name speaks volumes for me and it speaks the truth which is why my name is always the same. What is this you say? Why would your name change? For what reason? Many of you know why as you want to express yourself differently then what your given name is. Having a different name allows you the freedom to express yourself in ways your other name did not allow. Having a different name opens new doors of expression and enjoyment, and here we thought a name could do no such thing.

People may think they need to change their name so they can change themselves, fortunately for me, my name is Steven. And since it is Steven, no matter what I do, or what I wear, will ever change it.

Steven AKA Steven

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Ok, I'm going to repost something I sent to a crossdressing support group, I took out any references and such as I just didn't feel like retyping all my thoughts as there pretty good as is in my opinion.

Something else I want to say is that out of the couple crossdressing groups I visited, my choices in clothing would be more restricted in attending the meeting then if I was on the other side of the meeting door. In fact many of the groups say I have to play the part of the clothing that I am wearing, that is, if I'm wearing a skirt I have to wear a wig and get breasts and some even insist on a female name, no thanks I said.

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I understand the reasoning to change ones name to reflect who you are on the inside, it just doesn't work for me, and maybe others, that they need to change their name if they wear clothes from the other side of the aisle. Many males are severely oppressed in their choices of clothing, I don't think that any male that wants to wear something other then trousers has to portray themselves as a female and pick a female name when they do so.

Clothing for me does not have a sex, it's the rest of the package that defines as to wether one should fit into being a male or female. But even that does not work for me as I do not associate someone with long hair, answering the phone, nurse, housekeeper, etc as having to be a female person. Nor do I think someone who works on cars, does construction, owns a company, etc as having to be a male person. I do not see one sex as only being able to do certain things (well, ok, you got me on the reproductive part but thats nature) while the other sex is not. Many such restrictions are a societal  thing such as the clothing one wears. And don't take this the wrong way, but I think males are oppressed to the point that often their only escape is to escape completely and become something else. And the only reason they have to is because we as a society condemn males who appear soft and thus force them to express it in other acceptable and alternative ways.

Don't get me wrong, I think there are many males we are born in the wrong body just as there are females who are born in the wrong body, with life being as complicated as it is, such a thing is not beyond happening. But we as a society continually dictate as to who can do what, and males in my opinion are overly oppressed in being able to express themselves in non masculine ways while females have much greater freedom to do so. We as a society continually reinforce that only males are allowed to do that and only females are allowed to do this, I find the whole thing a bunch of rubbish. But that's how we as a society do such things and while it is usually ok for a female to take on traditional male roles and demeanors, it is not ok for a males to take on traditional female roles and demeanors. Females who cross the line can be called "inspiring", "tomboys", "leaders", and even "macho" while males who cross the line are "sissies", "faggots" and/or "perverted"

In my opinion, the majority of problems with males, and why they do some of the horrific things they do, is that society has so thinly defined the male persona, that they are severely restricted in the ability to express themselves in non aggressive methods.
(modern) Females are allowed much more latitude in doing almost anything they want without such restrictions, it's illegal to deny a female a mechanics job (it's still done, but there are laws on the books) Females can also express themselves through their outside appearance more freely then males (just look at the Emmy or Oscar awards) While some people may oppress females and/or try to hold them to traditional standards, most suffer little repercussion if they disobey.

Hence in my opinion as to why there are so many males out there that express themselves as females as doing so lets them do things that society can accept.

Hence why I do not call myself a crossdresser either, what I am wearing is my clothes, they may be styled after, and may look, exactly like typical female clothing, but I am wearing them and they are my clothes. As someone once told me, "If I wanted to crossdress as a female, I'd wear pants"

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The other day I stopped at a Target store looking for some things before I headed out for a trip, this was a brand new store and one of the biggest I've visited.

Overall however it was a bit disgusting, the amount of square footage devoted to female apperal and items was staggering, if I had a bit more time I could of had some fun browsing and when I blinked I had missed the male clothing area.

Of course they were gearing up for summer  so they had a lot of stuff out for that, but once again all I saw advertised on pool products, outdoor games and other items were females. Only once did I see a picture of a little boy for a singlet designed for flotation (in blue of course)

And don't get me started on the girls section, there must have been six asles devoted to dolls, jewelry, games, dressup, and what not, exasperating to say the least.

Can anyone tell me that with all this as to why females get to shop both sides of the asle while most males bar themselves from the other?

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